The higher your possessive capacity, the higher your degree of love?
Bursting that bubble in 5…4…3…2…1!
The one thing you need to know is – Love Liberates. In many ways, we’ve already experienced this type of love at least once in our lives. Maybe from the good old folks we call our parents. But the highly misunderstood emotion of Love, remains elusive to most of us. While I’m no authority on this matter, I’ve learnt that the best kind of Love just doesn’t hold you back.
While watching one of Maya Angelou’s videos, I came across her idea of what Love is and her words ring true to this day. She said, “Love says – I love you. I love you if you’re in China. I love you if you’re across town. I love you wherever you may be. I love you! I would like to be near you, I’d like to hear your voice in my ear, but that’s not possible right now. So, I love you. Go, I liberate you. Go on and explore what you need to, I liberate you.”
Keeping the tingling sensation of goosebumps aside, I realised truer words had not been spoken.
Without sermonising, I learnt that people who care about you and have your best interests at heart, will show it. Words may sometimes mean nothing but actions? They speak volumes.
You would be fortunate if Love is being bred as the emotion conjoining you to another person, out of the plethora of emotions that exist. If you have friends, family members or a significant other who can selflessly liberate you and prioritise your interests as much as their own – You’ve lucked out. But why stop there? What about you loving yourself enough to liberate you?
If you’re wondering what the liberation feels like, I’d imagine –
You’d receive support without asking for it. Your opinion would matter. Simple things like how your day was, would matter too. Your stories – of the past, present and future would all hold significant importance. You would be appreciated for who you are and for the unique idiosyncrasies you possess. You would be encouraged to feel secure in who you are. You would know the end to your woes is just a few minutes of meditation away. You would be able to explore who you are and who you can become. You would have a constant in-flow of motivation and support. You would be unafraid to express yourself in any and every way you wish to.
Above all, you will never be asked to remember what has been done for you.
All of these traits are applicable to self-love as well the love you share with other people.
Start with liberating yourself and build a ripple effect. When you do that for yourself, you will be less hesitant to do it for someone else.
Love that liberates is for us to create. Or we can stay constrained within the Love that our adult selves have often have grown accustomed to – Love that holds us back.
If only we could work on liberation over possession, we’d experience happiness in a form where fear does not exist.
“I liberate you. Go on and explore what you need to, I liberate you.”
Anvita Dixit is currently working on sparking conversation about 'self discovery' through Yoga, Fitness and the Arts on her blog and YouTube Channel. You can follow her on https://anvitadixitblog.wordpress.com/